he has ever had about himself, his limitations and his capacities. He'll do things for love that he would never think of doing when he is normal.

LOVE AN ABNORMAL STATE

Yes, I must admit that I think being in love as I am describing it at this point is an abnormal state. I am not using abnormal here as the opposite of normal, but as something that is not normal. I don't pretend to know what love is. I place it in the category of things like God, the spirit, the soul, the wind, or gravity. No one knows what it is or where it comes from, but we can see manifestations of it, and from the se manifestations we infer it exists and we give it a name.

In spite of what I don't know about it, there are certain things I can say about it. It is like gravity. No one knows what gravity is but we do know that if we break its laws, we can get hurt awfully badly. Love seems to have certain laws and if we break them we do get hurt. Never have I seen the laws of love so completely and so clearly stated as in Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet". If you have read it, you must read it again and again and again, until the words are etched into your very soul. If you love now, you need the message to keep the love alive. If you do not love now, you need it because the reason you do not love is that you do not know its message.

In order to say some other things about love I must bring in the mechanism of projection again. People are originally attracted to each other because they see something in the other person that seems to hold a promise of some kind of fulfillment. The attraction has its roots in the unconscious and is an irrational thing. One might try to find reasons for the attraction, and even bring some out that sound reasonable, or rational. But the person never really knows why he is attracted. What happens is that the unconscious identifies something in the other person that is complementary to the observer and it sends forth some energy which is experienced as attraction or drawing towards the person. I use the word "complementary" here in the sense of completing, or making whole by supplying the missing parts. I know it is very difficult for us to conceive of the idea that the unconscious as I speak of it has an autonomy all its own which might be separate from what we call consciousness, and still be a part of ourselves. It does have an autonomy of its own, and when consciousness goes along with it, there is equilibrium. But when

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